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Abbie Chatfield Shares Naked Photo To Instagram To Highlight Sexism

She pointed out how differently Australia would have reacted if she had done the same as Ciarran - by Isabelle Truman
  • 21 Oct 2019
Abbie Chatfield Shares Naked Photo To Instagram To Highlight Sexism

Bachelor runner-up Abbie Chatfield has taken to Instagram to call out the double standards on Australian reality TV, comparing her experience while on Matt Agnew's season to current Bachelorette contestant Ciarran's and pointing out how different the public would've reacted if the person stripping naked on last week's episode had been her. 

The 24-year-old, who faced immense backlash over the duration of the show for being 'too sexual', posted a naked photo of herself lying on the couch with grapes covering her, mimicking the pose Ciarran was in when he volunteered to be the naked model on a group date. Abbie wrote that she was nervous to post the image because of the backlash she was worried she'd get, but that "nothing will change" if people don't speak up about what they believe in.

"Last week on The Bachelorette, fan fav Ciarran stripped down to nothing as part of a group date. In the same week, he admitted he used to dance in bars and has had a nose job. This caused Australia (including me) to fall even further in love with him, admiring his confidence, sense of humour and cheeky behaviour," she wrote.

"While I LOVE that the majority of the public got behind Ciarran, I couldn’t help but wonder what it would be like if the gender roles had been reversed. What if I had been on a group date, offered to strip down to nothing and posed nude on National TV? What if in the same week I had shared that I had had plastic surgery and had danced in night clubs?!I can imagine the nation would riot," she continued.

"As we know from another one of my ranty posts, I got slut shamed HARD while on Bachie. When I wore a short skirt, I got messages saying that I was unworthy and unlovable for showing some skin. In contrast, Ciarran’s nudity made him a clear contender for Angie’s heart, his confidence being a quality that many women look for in a partner."

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Ok I'm nervous AF about posting this due to the possible backlash, but nothing will change if we all just shut up right? Yes, sorry guys, it's another feminist rant. Last week on The Bachelorette, fan fav Ciarran stripped down to nothing as part of a group date. In the same week, he admitted he used to dance in bars and has had a nose job. This caused Australia (including me) to fall even further in love with him, admiring his confidence, sense of humour and cheeky behaviour. The fact that he was so open about usually taboo topics was AMAZING. We simply must stan. However, the comment section on every social media post of Ciarran's photo was full of 😂 and 🔥 emojis. It was an awesome and iconic moment in Australian TV. While I LOVE that the majority of the public got behind Ciarran, I couldn't help but wonder what it would be like if the gender roles had been reversed. What if I had been on a group date, offered to strip down to nothing and posed nude on National TV? What if in the same week I had shared that I had had plastic surgery and had danced in night clubs?!I can imagine the nation would riot. I'm sure I'd be accused of being cocky, not confident, attention seeking, not funny, "slutty" (not that that means anything), not cheeky and "fake", not just comfortable enough to admit to having surgery. As we know from another one of my ranty posts, I got slut shamed HARD while on Bachie. When I wore a short skirt, I got messages saying that I was unworthy and unlovable for showing some skin. In contrast, Ciarran's nudity made him a clear contender for Angie's heart, his confidence being a quality that many women look for in a partner. I can only IMAGINE the public outcry if I had done the same as Ciarran, and had uploaded a photo of me with nothing but grapes covering me. So let's not imagine. Here's me doing a Ciarran. Let's see how this goes hey!

Previously, Abbie shared a lenthy post detailing all of the abuse she received while the show was airing, writing that she didn't think people would treat a woman the way she was in 2019.

“Things I got slut-shamed for on #thebachelorau: this bikini, my skort at hometowns, multiple cocktail party gowns, kissing matt ‘without a date’ and at a cocktail party (out of sight of anyone), pashing Matt in various locations with varying degrees of intensity, honestly admitting that I wanted to have sex with a man I was dating for 10 weeks and all around just ‘using sexuality to manipulate Matt’,” she wrote.

The trolling of Abbie got so bad after the show's finale that The Project host Lisa Wilkinson condemned fans, saying that it was a 'mean girls mentality.' Under a photo posted to her Instagram page with Matt and this year's winner Chelsie, Lisa replied to a troll, saying, "Whatever you think of these shows, no-one deserves the next-level nastiness, the threats of violence, the vicious pile-on, and the mean girls mentality that has gone on around her— both on and off the show— just because she decided to run her own race." 

"She found him— and he clearly found her— sexually attractive. That was caught on camera but judging her, and not him, for taking part in that...is an attitude that belongs to the 1950s. Abbie is, clearly, heartbroken, and not the tough cookie she tried to portray in that final episode, so let's all be mindful of that, at the very least." 

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Things I got slut shamed for on #thebachelorau: this bikini, my skort at hometowns, multiple cocktail party gowns, kissing matt 'without a date' and at a cocktail party (out of sight of anyone), pashing Matt in various locations with varying degrees of intensity, honestly admitting that I wanted to have sex with a man I was dating for 10 weeks and all around just "using sexuality to manipulate Matt". This is something I did not expect in 2019. Sex is essential to a successful relationship for me, as is sexual chemistry and the ability to express that comfortably with my partner. I saw commentary around my sexuality (rightly) calling out slut shaming and double standards regarding my pash sessions with Matt, with responses of "I'm not slut shaming her she is just manipulative/dumb/aggressive/only wanting sex". To insinuate that any relationship is less valid because of a strong physical connection is counterintuitive - the defining factor between a platonic and romantic relationship is physcial expressions of affection. I saw many comments about me having "nothing between my ears" or that I was "so insecure she can't talk to him so they just kiss". The public see ten minutes of a twelve hour date, it is insulting to both myself and Matt to assume he took me right until the end purely for a snog. I'd like those who think that I was manipulative to TRULY examine why you believe that. On most occasions, it comes down to a core belief that a woman who is "seducing" a man has ulterior motives, while a man doing the same is merely being romantic. If it isn't that, it is based off the opinion voiced of other contestants on the show, not my actions. I was always honest, authentic and expressive which can sometimes rub people the wrong way. It's okay to not like me - it is not okay to assume that I am less of a person or less worthy of love because I like to have sex and can talk freely and openly about it. Also MY LOVE LANGUAGES ARE PHYSICAL TOUCH AND QUALITY TIME LEAVE ME ALONE PLS
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Isabelle Truman is a freelance writer based out of London, UK. She specialises in fashion, lifestyle and travel and knows a thing or two (read: everything) about both Meghan Markle and 'Sex and the City'.

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