Sex toys have been a part of our life since the beginning of civilization. In fact, the first known dildo dates back to the paleolithic era. Dildos carved out of polished stone or bone were widely discovered amongst personal artifacts like sewing needles and combs. There's a rumour that Cleopatra invented the first vibrator out of a hollowed-out gourd filled with angry bees!
Since the 1800s, Doctors were treating female 'hysteria' with orgasms. Anything from a headache, fatigue, irritability, depression, anxiety and more could be cured with a discreet one-hour visit to the doctor’s office. A pelvic massage from your GP would induce the cure-all hysterical paroxysm' (orgasm).
Dr Mortimer Granville invented the first vibrator in 1883. It only took 5 minutes to achieve 'paroxysm', freeing up doctor’s time and saving their hands from RSI. By 1899, vibrators were advertised as an essential home appliance. In fact, they were the fifth electric appliance General Electric released into the market (after the kettle, toaster, sewing machine and fan).
No longer are sex toys a considered a cure for man-splained hysteria. Sadly, many people will still judge you if you leave your g-spot rabbit vibrator lying around the house.
With a huge variety available for your toy collection, finding the best sex toys for women can be a bit overwhelming. It’s good to start with some online research in the privacy of your own home. Read up on vibrator reviews and have a look at the different types of sex toys around.
Dildo vs vibrator - what’s the difference?
Most of the toys you see are one of these two. On the outside, they almost look like the same thing (but it’s what's on the inside that counts). A vibrator vibrates (why we love them!) and has a small motor inside to power those toe-curling vibrations. A dildo has no motor and does not vibrate.
Craving some good vibrations? Easy, slide a condom over your dildo, then slide on a vibrating cock-ring and you are good to go.
Dildo vs vibrator - which is better?
You need to think about your own personal needs. Dildos are designed more for penetrative play (anal or vaginal). Vibrators are favoured for, g-spot, anal, nipple, vaginal and clitoral stimulation. Why not get both?
Different types of vibrators, and which one is the best?
Below are some of the most common types of vibrators around. Most vibrators are conveniently USB rechargeable or simply battery powered. The best vibrators for you personally can only be found by doing your own research and experimentation. Everyone likes something different, but one thing I say to everyone is to make sure you always use plenty of water-based lube to make playtime more comfortable and enjoyable.
This pocket rocket has earned its place in the clitoral vibrator Hall of Fame. Petite (usually 7.5cm - 13cm long), inexpensive and versatile, this is a great way to start your sex toy journey. With options that can be disguised as a necklace, lipstick or key charm these babies are so discreet you can take them anywhere and everywhere.
This is a small egg-shaped vibrator (similar) to the bullet. You can easily slip this inside you and enjoy some kinky fun while you are out and about. Make sure you choose an egg with a remote control for kinky games. Give the remote to your partner so you can be at their mercy, with no idea when you will send you some kinky vibration patterns.
Ready for something bigger than a bullet? This is the longer, girthier version. Classic vibrators have a straight, slim, elegant shape and come in a range of tasteful colours and textures (smooth, textured or ribbed). These are designed for inserting inside you (but still feed great against your clit). Usually around 4-8 inches long, this is Goldilocks’ choice (not too big, not too small, just right!). Traditional vibrators are very easy to use, with controls at the base and different settings to keep things interesting. These are a masterful combination of aesthetics and engineering with a hard plastic shell that intensifies its powerful vibrations.
Just like a real penis, you can find these in every shape, length, and girth. They are anatomically correct and perfect if you love the combination of deep penetration and powerful vibrations. Those that enjoy multi-tasking (or should I say multi-stimulating) will love the suction cup option so you can ride your way to more bliss, thanks to freeing up those helping hands to pleasure other places.
If you are trying to learn the elusive art of female ejaculation (more commonly known as squirting), then this is the one for you. These curved vibrators have a bulbous head that will stimulate hard to reach G-spot and take your orgasms to the next level. Combine this with clitoral stimulation and you'll be shooting off into space. If you are attached, both you and your partner will be so unbelievably turned on by your squirt. If you are single, you deserve to enjoy the creme de la creme of orgasms.
When these were invented, Christmas came early for women everywhere. These are on the best-selling models, with unbelievable vibration settings. Rabbit provide clitoral stimulation, while its round rotating shaft and massaging pearls vibrate intense pleasure to your g-spot and vagina. This is the gold standard, loved by women worldwide because they take pleasure to the next level with very little effort. The perfect solution when you're feeling tired (but frisky) at the end of a busy day.
Magic Wand Vibrators
Originally marketed for relief from back and neck pain as a personal massager, magic wand vibrators have one of the most powerful motors and are famous for their intense clitoral stimulation. The most well-known brand is Hitachi, but there is plenty of choice in the market now.
Oral Sex Vibrators
There are two different types of vibrators to simulate oral sex. If you have a partner to play with, you can attach it to your tongue to enhance the oral sex experience. For solo play, there are vibrators specifically designed to mimic oral sensation. Two popular choices are the Lelo ORA 2 and the Satisfyer Pro 2.
What are the different types of dildos and which one is the best?
Different strokes for different folks! There is not one single 'best' dildo but luckily, we have access to such a huge range, so you should be able to find one that suits you. Doc Johnson is one of the most popular brands, with a good range.
Looks and feels like the real thing (including the veins, balls and everything!!). These have a suction cup base for handsfree fun and can also be used with a strap-on.
These hybrids will give you the best of both worlds for a pleasure-packed sex life.
These almost fall into the art category as a one of a kind sculptures that are in your secret stash. These are rigid and super sensitive to temperature, so you can enjoy hot and cold sensations that don't compare to any other sex toy.
Exactly as the name sounds, this can be shared in a steamy lesbian session or used for double penetration. A double penetration dildo is usually U shaped.
These are a wide range of anal dildos that can move the party to the back door. There is an anal dildo out there that every individual will love and is tailored to suit their entry level. Remember, if you are new to anal, start small and use lots of lube.
In a variety of textures, shapes and sizes the G-spot dildo has a curved tip to stimulate that mysterious G-spot.
The big kahuna - extra-long and thick, don't try this one at home unless you are an experienced dildo user. Work your way up to these gradually.
Discreet sex toys - What are the different types and which ones are the best?
Discreet means different things to different people. Keeping your toy collection under wraps can be achieved with camouflage, small sized toys and whisper quiet vibrators.
If your toys blend in with everyday items, you can be the queen of discreet. The Womanizer 2Go clitoral vibrator looks just like a lipstick. Your Hitachi magic wand can be explained away as a personal massager for your sore shoulder (this excuse will only work on naive people though).
For something that you can leave lying around the Shiri Zinn iScream, and Shiri Zinn cupcakes look the part with a vibrator hidden inside. If you always want to keep your vibrator handy, then the Vesper Vibe doubles as an elegant pendant and mini vibrator.
Peace and quiet
Quiet vibrators are a godsend. If you don't want your entire household hearing your toys it pays to invest in the high-end luxury brands. They use high-tech motors which are much quieter. There a quite a few luxury brands on the market. A few you could check out are: Lelo, We-Vibe, Crave
What types of sex toys are out there for couples?
The fun factor always increases when you have company. There are some fantastic interactive toys to include your significant other in your playtime, or you can just include each other when you play with your existing toys. If he wants his own toys, Japanese brand Tenga has a great range of toys for men and couples.
Interactive couples toys
The most well-known sex toy in the market for couples’ play is the we-vibe. Worn by her, this toy has a G-spot and clitoral stimulator. Your partner can control the vibrations via a mobile phone app or remote control. This could be fun to wear out to dinner or to the shops, you will never know which one its ten vibration modes is going to hit you next (or where). You can also keep this inside you for intercourse to spice things up. Just make sure you have inserted it correctly as there is nothing more annoying than it is slipping out halfway through.
When you are playing games and giving your partner full control, connectivity with most of the toys can be an issue. Try to use apps that don't rely on Bluetooth if you can because Bluetooth connectivity can be a big pain (and can change the mood from frisky to frustrated in no time). If your partner loves watching cam-models, Lovense has a range of different toys that he can control from afar (as happens on some of the live cam sites) with powerful vibrations and good battery life.
Of course, penis rings are another great choice for both parties to be worn during intercourse for extra clitoral stimulation for her, and to make things more enjoyable for him.
Ben wa balls
For a bit of stimulation with the bonus of strengthening up the Kegel muscles inserting some vibrating (or non-vibrating) ben wa balls can be a good foreplay option.
If you want to enjoy more different sex positions, then Wedge and Ramp sex furniture is a tool that you can use to help give a bit more support. As for recommending which is the best toy for couples, again it’s all about personal choice. No matter what your experience keep reading reviews to ensure your toys are of reasonable quality.
Different types of anal sex toys
There are loads of anal sex toys available. The most common ones are anal beads and butt plugs. It’s important to choose a toy that matches your experience level and always start small.
Remember, the more lube the better. Most anal lubes are silicone based, which is a thicker, longer lasting lubricant. The only downside is that silicone lubricant cannot be used with silicone toys or latex condoms. To be safe, choose a water-based lube and make sure that you reapply it often.
Also known as anal pearls, these are chains of beads in varying sizes that you or your partner insert into your anus during foreplay or sex. They give incredible sensations and are meant to be slowly removed at climax for intense, full body orgasms.
Anal Training Kits
These are a great idea for beginners to prepare yourself for anal sex. They usually consist of butt plugs that increase in size. Start with the smallest one and work your way up as you become comfortable.
These bulb-shaped toys are inserted into the anus and a designed to be worn for a short time before sex. These also stretch you out before anal play. There are so many to choose from, remember to start small if you are a beginner.
Special vibrators designed for anal play for more stimulation. Some come with extra perks like a cock ring for him
Best places to buy sex toys
Personally, I prefer to buy sex toys online. Everyone is different, but if you are shy, or want to shop around for the cheapest option, you should shop online. If you do a google search there are loads of online sex shops e.g. lovehoney.
If you want a bit more help or like to see things before you buy them then have a look for your nearest adult shop. The staff are generally super friendly and happy to help.