"With the intimate scenes, you do so much rehearsing for it, and you talk about it there’s so many things there to protect you and to make you comfortable, " Oliver tells us.
"They're actually the less difficult ones [to film] because its so rehearsed, and to an extent, we know how it’s going to go."
In fact, the hardest scenes to film were unexpected, the pair tell us.
"It’s the little moments that are kind of harder in a way to unpick, you need to sit in them for a while," Alwyn describes.
At this point, Oliver's memory is jogged as she recalls her first day on set: "That reminds me, the first day there was a scene where I was running up the stairs, and I had to do it 10 times because I was thinking about it too much. Stuff like that I found so hard [to film], like just being normal."
While the series stands out for its simple, yet loaded dialogue (thanks to Rooney's descriptive writing and Abrahamson's directing), there's just as much weight in the silent moments.
This, more than ever, is where we see the chemistry between Frances and Nick begin to build. There's long stares, there's darting eyes and there's lingering eye contact.
"Sally [Rooney] is so good at those small moments of miscommunications and the things unsaid as much as what’s said," Alwyn tells us. "And I think that’s kind of what’s great for Lenny’s [Abrahamson] world as well, he’s so good at creating those environments."
"I find it more interesting when you're playing out that style rather than just saying what you're feeling all the time, it feels more true to life—we often don’t know how to communicate what we want to say and if the person is on the same page as us."
Oliver agrees, adding that if these characters were to be in real life situations, they probably wouldn't speak much either because of the intensity they're going through, and because that intensity is difficult to pin-point.
"That’s what makes the silence so loud, it’s just really exciting to play and feel."
When it came to understanding their characters a little more, Oliver had a slightly easier time spotting similarities than Joe did.
"There are probably elements of the character I could've drawn on in a broader scene, but specifically and contextually I wasn't like 'oh yea I did that a few years ago'," he laughs. Thank goodness, too—Alwyn has been in a relationship with famous singer Taylor Swift since 2016.
Oliver, on the other hand?
"There’s loads of things I recognised [in similarity between herself and Frances], particularly the friendship dynamic and that deep innate understanding between women," she says, referencing the close friendship Frances shares with Bobbi.
"I have sisters and I recognise that with our bond with each other. That felt very close to home I think."
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