A Guide To Meeting And Connecting With Your Mentor

Top tips for creating a lasting business relationship - by Greta Stewart

It can be a daunting task asking someone out, and even more so when they have a wealth of achievements behind them. In striving for success, many people look to have a mentor. But once you've found someone you look up to and who you wish to learn from, how do you go about asking them? Here, we set out seven tips to ask your mentor to connect, and increase their chances of saying yes.

Show your genuine interest

Everyone likes to feel valued and appreciated. When you see something you like and admire from your potential mentor, let them know and be specific. Follow up by asking if they would be willing to discuss things further over a coffee, show your genuine interest in learning more from them.

Have your selling points

Send an email that explains who you are, what sets you apart from others, and what you hope to get out of the meeting, so the expectations are transparent and your mentor is more likely to agree to share their time.

Be natural

As tempting as it can be, according to the experts at Bumble don't use the 'm' word outright, at least at first, as it closes off the potential for a naturally built rapport. Instead, suggest that you would like some guidance in your career trajectory, as you admire the pathways they have taken.

Be flexible

Be open in regards to scheduling, they are giving you their time, make it easy as possible for them to arrange this.

Keep it succinct

Be respectful of the value of time. Thirty minutes is a reasonable amount of time to ask for and make sure to keep to the allotted time when meeting, to increase the likelihood of them wanting to meet again in the future.

Get straight to the point

Don't waste time with small talk. Let them know why you admire them, and what drew you to want to learn from them. Do your research, know their background, and have questions ready to ask.

Listen

You are here to learn and grow from this person, make sure you are attentive, and keep the conversation focused around them.