Earlier this week, former Bachelor In Paradise star Sam Cochrane accused his former fiance Tara Pavlovic of being “physically and verbally” abusive and an “excessive drinker.”
Now Tara has responded to the allegations, taking to Instagram Stories in a lengthy post.
“He left me at our engagement party after he accused me of hooking up with his friend Stu,” she wrote, referring to Stu Laundy the winner of Sophie Monk’s season of The Bachelorette.
“He said in the article he left because I was drunk — NOT TRUE. when I got back to the hotel he wasn’t there,” she continued.
“When he got back I asked where he was and he said he was with his French ex-fuck buddy (who he used to tell me sex stories about) and insinuated that he cheated on me (he would often play games like this to make me jealous). When he told me he cheated on me, I hit him and cried and told him to get out of my hotel. After he realised that the game backfired and I was done, he told me he didn’t touch her and just went to her house to help her find her cat (that was the emergency he spoke of).”
“He pushed me. He pushed me every day. There are two sides to every story. I do not condone violence, I’m not a violent person. This was so out of character for me, which is why I left when he begged me back for weeks.”
“If I was that bad, surely the guy wouldn’t beg for me back. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship with a narcissist. Only someone who has been through that can relate to how fucking bad it is, and how you can be pushed over the edge.”
Tara later took to Instagram Stories to write: “I am getting so many messages from women who have been through the same thing I recently went through.”
“Thank you everyone for sharing your experiences with me and sending your love. I feel lucky that I was in a similar relationship when I was younger. So, after 6 months I was able to recognise the signs and walk away without guilt when he cried begging me back,” she said.
Tara went on to say that she read an article about dating a narcissist “that really helped me understand what was going on” and urged her followers in emotionally abusive relationships to read it, before linking to the article titled ’13 Signs You’re Dating A Narcissist.’
“You’re not crazy,” she finished.
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