I call myself one of Tinder’s unofficial founding members. I was there from the beginning, back in 2012, and have since fallen into what I think of as the dating app’s common cycle: initial giddy addiction at the possibility of the great unknown; obsessive swiping until both thumbs lose feeling; a few lukewarm, largely disappointing dates; deletion of the app in disgust; then re-downloading it when boredom strikes. After three years, I have little to show for it, except a bunch of saved WhatsApp conversations with blokes I saw once over a cheap bottle of wine – and what feels like one long hangover.
So what am I doing wrong? As a 27-year-old woman who has been single for most of her adult life, I like to think I know myself better than anyone else.
But my glaring lack of success is starting to make me question my Tindering tactics. Granted, my Tinder game has never been that calculated – I just use the most flattering (OK, potentially misleading) photos, then swipe right on any bloke who looks like he could possibly be in a band. Maybe it is time to seek outside help.
I decide to make every single woman’s nightmare my reality and hand over my Tinder profile to people who believe they can do a better job than me at finding my one true love. So over a three-week period, I relinquish control of my account to my best friend, Ed, my mum and a Tinder expert. (Yes, they do exist.)
I’m putting them all to the ultimate test: find me Mr Right – or at least Mr Right Enough For A Second Date.
Tomer Galzberg is a Tinder hacker who has made a name for himself working out how to get the most out of the app.
Tomer’s approach is all about strategy, streamlining and timesaving, which sounds about as sexy as updating Microsoft Excel. But, heck – this is the guy who used applied behavioural science to score 177 dates over an eight month period. I’m definitely listening.
As Tomer is an expert in what signals our profiles give of, I ask him the most important question: what should my profile picture look be? “When I was Tinder hacking, I would select six of my favourite photos and rotate the number-one photo each week. I would then swipe exactly 20 times per day for matches I actually wanted, and at the end, the one with the highest number of return swipes became my permanent number-one photo.”
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