What are some red flags we consistently see on the show?
There are five consistent red flags on MAFS,.
- Emotional baggage
- Lack of compatibility
- Lack of chemistry
- Poor communication skills
- Lack of commitment
In this season of MAFS, compatibility is higher than previous seasons, as seen through Domenica and Jack, Ella and Mitch and Jackson and Olivia. Unfortunately, there are some big misses too — Samantha and Al are a travesty. Both are great people, but so not in the same place in life. We continue to see the red flags of baggage and relationship communication skills in Anthony and Selin and a lack of chemistry with Jack and Selina.
Why do you think so many MAFS relationships fail? (Only 5 of 72 matches have lasted)
Ultimately, I think MAFS relationships fail because the four key drivers of relationship success are not built into the process. They say it’s a scientific process, but it's clearly not. Based on the actual relationship research, if you seriously wanted to match people, you should be making four key tweaks to the process.
1. Assess relationship readiness by questionnaire and interview.
Being relationship ready. Dealing with major baggage doubles the chances of success where issues are identified, so providing coaching as part one of the show would be majorly beneficial. 2. Full compatibility assessment
Looking at key compatibility factors like life values, children, family, money, career, etc. The experts should then only match couples where there is high compatibility, at least above 80%. 3. Account for chemistry
Show them photos of lots of people and understand who they find attractive and why. Don’t waste time introducing them to someone who they won’t find attractive! 4. When they hit issues, jump in with relationship counselling and communication skill building
There are three great relationship coaches and the show is designed so that they mostly just watch the train wrecks in slow motion. Don’t just let them flounder, it's excruciating to watch. That being said, it's probably more realistic as most people don’t possess these skills or have access to experts to help right there and then.
When asked if most relationships on MAFS are designed to fail, Anna's answer was a simple yes.
"Mostly yes," she said. "The compatibility is higher this season, but when you start a new relationship, there are always teething issues. The MAFS process is designed as a pressure cooker to accentuate these, and without some support from the experts things are likely to unravel."
Whatever our reasons are for watching, it's even clearer now why we keep coming back. Maybe MAFS makes us feel better about our own relationships, or maybe it's an important lesson in what we should and shouldn't expect from our partners. Despite the show's history proving that it's not the most legitimate way to find love, there's always a lesson to be learned, not only for the contestants, but for the viewers as well.