The 11 Biggest Revelations From Britney Spears’ Memoir, ‘The Woman In Me’

Britney Spears is finally telling her side of the story in her memoir, 'The Woman In Me.'
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Britney Spears’ highly anticipated memoir, The Woman In Me, is here—and the bombshells are already rolling in. 

For those wondering whether the pop star’s memoir lives up to the hype, you will be pleased to know that the chapters are just as spicy as you might imagine. 

Spanning four decades of the pop stars life, the memoir is giving us more insight into everything from Britney’s rise to stardom, her relationship with Justin Timberlake and her controversial conservatorship.

Below, the biggest revelations from The Woman In Me. 

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Britney Spears in 1999, (Credit: Getty)

Britney Spears Fell Pregnant When She Was With Justin Timberlake 

In the memoir, Britney opens up about her relationship with Justin Timberlake, who she dated in the late 90s and early 2000s after meeting on the set of The Mickey Mouse Club with Christina Aguilera and Ryan Gosling. 

Britney writes about the then-couple’s first kiss, which happened at a sleepover during a game of truth or dare while, “a Janet Jackson song was playing in the background,” and their early chemistry. 

“We met up when I was on tour and started hanging out during the day before shows and then after shows too,” Britney writes. “Pretty soon I realized that I was head over heels in love with him—so in love with him it was pathetic. When he and I were anywhere in the same vicinity—his mom even says this—we were like magnets.”

The singer also opened about the “difficult decision” to have an abortion in 2000, after she became pregnant with her and Timberlake’s child. 

“It was a surprise, but for me, it wasn’t a tragedy,” Britney wrote. “I loved Justin so much. I always expected us to have a family together one day. This would just be much earlier than I’d anticipated. But Justin definitely wasn’t happy about the pregnancy. He said we weren’t ready to have a baby in our lives, that we were way too young.”

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Britney Spears and Justin Timberlake in 2001. (Credit: Getty)

Britney Was Scared Of The Snake She Carried During Her 2001 VMAs Performance 

Britney’s 2001 VMAs performance was one of the star’s most iconic, with many fans marvelling at Britney’s bravery to perform with a real life snake. However, Britney has now revealed that she wasn’t as confident as she seemed on stage. 

“All I knew was to look down, because I felt if I looked up and caught its eye, it would kill me,” Britney wrote. “In my head I was saying, ‘Just perform, just use your legs and perform.’ But what nobody knows is that as I was singing, the snake brought its head right around to my face, right up to me, and started hissing.”

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Britney Spears performing with a snake at the 2001 VMAs. (Credit: Getty)

Britney Started Drinking With Her Mum In 8th Grade 

In her memoir, Britney writes about sharing drinks with her mother, Lynne Spears—starting from when she was in grade eight. 

“For fun, starting when I was in eighth grade, my mom and I would make the two-hour drive from Kentwood to Biloxi, Mississippi, and while we were there, we would drink daiquiris,

“We called our cocktails ‘toddies,’” she writes. “I loved that I was able to drink with my mom every now and then. The way we drank was nothing like how my father did it. When he drank, he grew more depressed and shut down. We became happier, more alive and adventurous”.

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Britney Spears and her mother, Lynne. (Credit: Getty)

Britney Almost Starred In The Notebook 

While Britney is best known for her music, the pop star also had a short acting career, when she appeared in the film Crossroads. However, the star has now revealed that she was also up for another role—Allie in The Notebook

“The Notebook casting came down to me and Rachel McAdams, and even though it would have been fun to reconnect with Ryan Gosling after our time on the Mickey Mouse Club, I’m glad I didn’t do it,” she said. “If I had, instead of working on my album In the Zone I’d have been acting like a 1940s heiress day and night.”

She Believed Her Family Was Trying To Kill Her 

Britney writes about thinking her family was trying to kill her multiple times throughout her memoir. She says that she felt forced to go along with her controversial conservatorship because of her children and “didn’t have a lot of fight left” in her. 

“And here’s the sad, honest truth: After everything I had been through, I didn’t have a lot of fight left in me. I was tired, and I was scared, too. After being held down on a gurney, I knew they could restrain my body anytime they wanted to. They could’ve tried to kill me, I thought. I started to wonder if they did want to kill me.”

She also writes about returning home from a rehab facility where she spent months with no one but staff, and her family visiting her as if nothing happened. 

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Britney Spears in 2017. (Credit: Getty)

Britney’s Grandmother Was Treated At A Mental Health Facility 

Britney writes about her paternal grandmother, Jean’s mental health challenges in her memoir. According to Britney, Jean was sent to an asylum by her husband and treated with lithium—a drug Britney was also put on when she was in a mental health facility. 

Britney shares that her grandmother lost a child when the baby was only three days old. Eight years later, after her stay at the treatment centre, Jean visited the baby’s grave and fatally shot herself. 

There Was Infidelity In Her Relationship With Timberlake 

Britney dished the dirt on the state of her relationship with Timberlake, when she wrote about the times Timberlake was allegedly unfaithful to her. She writes about when pictures were taken of Timberlake in a car with a member of All Saints and referenced a time with another woman who she prefers not to name.

“I don’t want to say who he was talking about because she’s actually very popular and she’s married with kids now. I don’t want her to feel bad. My friend was shocked and believed Justin was only saying it because he was high and felt like bragging,” she writes.

“There were rumors about him with various dancers and groupies. I let it all go, but clearly, he’d slept around. It was one of those things where you know but you just don’t say anything,” she continues.

Britney explained that she stayed with Timberlake during the alleged cheating because she was so in love with him. She also admits to cheating on Timberlake when she made out with choreographer Wade Robson during a night out in Las Vegas. 

“We were out one night and we went to a Spanish bar. We danced and danced. I made out with him that night. I was loyal to Justin for years, only had eyes for him with that one exception, which I admitted to him,” she writes. “That night was chalked up to something that will happen when you’re as young as we were, and Justin and I moved past it and stayed together. I thought we were going to be together forever. I hoped we would be.”

Adderall Was Britney’s “Drug Of Choice” 

In her memoir, Britney opens up about her drug use, explaining that while she has used Vicodin for an injury and Prozac for her mental health, Adderall was her “drug of choice.” 

Britney explained that her desire for the drug, which is usually used to treat ADHD, was its ability to help her feel good. 

“what I found far more appealing was that it gave me a few hours of feeling less depressed. It was the only thing that worked for me as an antidepressant, and I really felt like I needed one of those,” Britney wrote. 

The pop star also writes about her dislike of harder drugs, preferring to drink beer instead. 

Britney’s Difficult Divorce From Kevin Federline 

Britney writes about struggling to trust people after going through a divorce from the father of her child, Kevin Federline. 

According to Britney, she was told that Federline was going to file for divorce “no matter what.” 

“I was led to believe that it would be better if I did it first so that I wasn’t humiliated. I didn’t want to be embarrassed so in early November 2006, when Jayden was almost two months old, I filed the papers. Kevin and I both asked for full custody of the boys,” she writes.

However, because Britney filed, she was required to pay his legal bills and was held responsible in the press for breaking up the family. 

“So I was young, and I made a lot of mistakes. But I will say this: I wasn’t manipulative. I was just stupid. That’s one thing Justin and Kevin ruined about me. I used to trust people. But after the breakup with Justin and then my divorce, I never really did trust people again,” she writes.

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Britney Spears and Kevin Federline. (Credit: Getty)

Britney Shaved Her Head To Send A Message 

“My long hair was a big part of what people liked — I knew that. I knew a lot of guys thought long hair was hot. Shaving my head was a way of saying to the world: F— you. You want me to be pretty for you? F— you. You want me to be good for you? F— you. You want me to be your dream girl? F— you. 

“I’d smiled politely while TV show hosts leered at my breasts, while American parents says I was destroying their children by wearing a crop top, while executives patted my hand condescendingly and second-guessed my career choices even though I’d sold millions of records, while my family acted like I was evil. And I was tired of it,” Britney wrote. 

Britney Wasn’t Allowed To Get Her IUD Removed Under Her Conservatorship 

Britney opened up about having nearly every aspect of her life controlled under her conservatorship, including everything from her finances to her diet and even her birth control choices. 

Speaking about her relationship with her third husband, Hesam “Sam” Asghari, Britney writes, “Everything began to seem possible. Hesam and I became so close that we started to talk about having a baby together. But I was in my thirties, and I knew that time was running out.” 

“And yet,” Britney adds. “my father wouldn’t let me go to the doctor when I asked for an appointment to get my IUD removed.”

Britney did end up falling pregnant with Sam but sadly lost the baby to a miscarriage in her first trimester. 

“I was devastated to have lost the baby,” she writes. “Once again though, I used music to help me gain insight and perspective.”

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