Putting pen to paper, Crouse did what any good writer would do and wrote an essay for the New York Times titled, ‘My Ex-Boyfriends New Girlfriend Is Lady Gaga.’ The opinion piece, which has since gone viral explores the difficulties of learning of an ex’s new relationship in the digital age.
“I don’t follow my ex on social media,” she wrote. “I hadn’t googled him in forever (I promise). But this month I knew everything about his new relationship status, within hours of when it was disclosed.”
“Social media in 2020 is so ingrained that it’s no longer a supplement or even an addiction. It’s just an accelerated extension of the way humans have always behaved. We live in a culture of constant updates. You want to unsubscribe? Well, you can’t.”
For most of us, refraining from comparing yourself to your ex’s new spouse is an impossible task, but it might be worth taking a leaf out of Crouse’s book, who opted instead to bring herself up to Gaga’s level.
“Instead of thinking, ‘Why not me?’ when I see them together, I think ‘That was me.’ It pulls the illusion of celebrity down,” penned Crouse.
“Lady Gaga is amazing. Comparing yourself with her is incredibly motivational, and I recommend you try it, regardless of how you relate to who’s dating her.”
You can read Lindsay Crouse’s full letter here.