Figuring out if your sexual orientation is demisexual has become increasingly difficult in recent years. The way most relationships begin these days, there is very rarely the sole intention to become friends, meaning no emotional bond is made.
Here are 5 signs you may be demisexual.
Looks are mostly irrelevant.
Plenty of us swipe right these days based solely on an attractive photo before even reading a profile. But for demisexual people, physical appearance is a non-factor. Demisexuals find a romantic attraction to personalities over faces and are more interested in creating authentic connections based on similar interests above all else.
Most of your relationships start out as friendships.
Getting to know a potential partner as a friend is a huge factor in building a physical attraction for demisexuals, which is why many often find themselves developing a secondary sexual attraction to close friends.
You enjoy sex, but it’s not your top priority.
Demisexuals do have a sex drive, however for most sexual desire is not on the top of the list of priorities. The physical act holds significantly less importance than, say, emotional intimacy.
First dates are a huge deal for you.
First dates can be important for anyone, but for those who identify as demisexual, they're hugely important. If you're demisexual, you're probably wanting to find a strong emotional bond.
You've probably been called "old-fashioned"
If you've ever heard the word "old-fashioned" when it comes to your sexual activity, it could be because of your demisexuality. Demisexuals, as previously stated, don't have the need for sexual partners or one-night stands, and are instead looking to find a strong emotional attachment instead.
If you're still looking for more information on the asexual spectrum and demisexuality, visit the Asexual Visibility and Education Network. AVEN hosts the world's largest online asexual community as well as a large archive of resources on asexuality, creating an open, honest discussion about asexuality among sexual and asexual people alike.