Jonah Hill‘s ex, Sarah Brady, is shedding light on a very specific type of toxic behaviour in relationships. Brady, a semi-pro surfer and law student, shared a series of text screenshots on social media, allegedly from her famous former partner.
As many folks have pointed out, these aren’t “boundaries” at all. So, what’s the issue here? Allow us to explain…
Who Is Jonah Hill’s Ex, Sarah Brady?
First, a bit of background on the relationship.
Sarah Brady, 26, is a surfer who dated actor Jonah Hill some time around 2022. The pair confirmed their relationship on social media in October 2021, and later attended Hill’s Don’t Look Up premiere together in December that same year.
While never publicly announcing their split, Us Weekly alleges they broke up before some time before Hill went public with current girlfriend, Olivia Millar, in August 2022. PEOPLE reports the pair welcomed their first child in May 2023.
What Did The Texts Between Jonah Hill & Sarah Brady Say?
In July 2023, Brady posted a series of screenshots of text messages that appear to be between herself and Hill. She began the string of Instagram stories by stating: “This is a warning to all girls. If your partner is talking to you like this, make an exit plan.”
The screenshot then appears to show Hill requesting Brady remove certain images from her social media. Brady’s reply confirms that she removed “three”, but wanted to keep one because it was her “best surfing video”.
She then offers to change the cover image of the video [the photo that appears as the still image] if that would make him feel better, to which he responds: “Yes, one that isn’t of your ass in a thong”.
In further messages, Hill allegedly suggested his then-girlfriend stop “surfing with men” and stop modelling as it violated his boundaries.
One of the most explosive texts shared by Brady shows Hill’s full list of demands:
“If you need:
- Surfing with men
- Boundaryless [sic] inappropriate friendships with men
- to model
- to post pictures of yourself in a bathing suit
- to post sexual pictures
- friendships with women who are in unstable places and from your wild recent past beyond getting a lunch or coffee or something respectful
I am not the right partner for you. If these things bring you to a place of happiness I support it and there will be no hard feelings. These are my boundaries for romantic partnership.”
This is then followed with a text clarifying that these boundaries are “based on the ways these actions have hurt our trust”.
Brady posted separate screenshots of texts from Hill seemingly furthering his request for her to stop modelling, saying it is the “last profession I would be with as a partner”.
Brady responds: “Well maybe you should’ve asked me more about what I do for work before you decided to date me then.”
Other texts allegedly show Hill urging Brady to “step up and cut s**t”, adding “These people don’t get your time or your kindness at the sacrifice of mines [sic].” Brady suggests that “by ‘these people’ he meant any friend of mine that he hadn’t personally approved of”.
What Is Wrong With Jonah Hill’s Texts?
While Hill has an alarming number of supporters, as Sarah claims, Hill “misused” therapy language in what came across as an attempt to control his partner.
As American counsellor Jeff Guenther, known online as ‘TherapyJeff’, detailed on TikTok: “It’s important we go over this misuse in therapy language… and how it can be super problematic as it masks controlling behaviour under a commonly accepted positive concept, in this case ‘boundaries’, making it harder for the person on the receiving end (Sarah) to challenge it.”
“A boundary is a healthy limit a person sets for themselves to protect their wellbeing and integrity,” Jeff continues in a video which has racked-up over 450k views and counting.
A number of social media users have taken issue with Hill’s supposed argument, pointing out that setting boundaries doesn’t involve setting rules for others.
Hill, who tracked his journey with his therapist in the Netflix documentary Stutz, has not responded to the incident.
This article originally appeared on ELLE Australia.
